When I was nine years old, I embarked on an exciting challenge, growing watermelons in my backyard. Little did I know that this endeavor would teach me valuable lessons about understanding and compassion.
Durand, a neighbor and friend, joined me in this venture. Despite being two years younger, he looked up to me and wanted to be involved. We watered the tiny shoots diligently, with Durand eagerly learning the art of nurturing plants.
One day, I discovered insect holes on a leaf, and my immediate reaction was to seek my dad’s advice. He reassured me that it was a common occurrence and part of the process. However, a bigger challenge awaited us when my parents planned a visit to my grandparents, leaving me anxious about my watermelons.
Dad came to the rescue, promising to connect an automatic sprinkler to ensure the plants received proper care in their absence. My worries subsided, and we embarked on our family trip.
Upon returning, I rushed to the backyard, only to find the once-promising patch reduced to bare dirt. Panic set in, and I accused Durand of destroying my hard work. Emotions ran high until my mom offered a perspective-altering insight.
Reminding me of Durand’s past attempts to emulate me, she shared, “Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.” Despite the damage to my watermelons, Durand’s actions were driven by a desire to be like me, not to harm me intentionally.
As the years passed, I encountered similar situations, and my mom’s wisdom became a guiding light. When faced with hurtful words or actions, I remembered that people often imitate those they admire. This understanding didn’t erase the pain, but it provided a different lens through which to view the situation.
In the end, the watermelon incident became a minor bump in our relationship. Years later, Durand tragically passed away from a brain aneurysm at the age of twenty-six. Reflecting on our shared past, I realized the significance of empathy and the enduring impact of the lessons learned from that little watermelon patch. ❖
About the Author: Judie Clark is a retired English/Language Arts, and Speech Teacher. She has taught kindergarteners through college students, and has spent time conducting research in Europe and Africa.
